By Adeola Agoro
There are different types of materials used for bras – lace, cotton, fibers, polyester, Spandex, silk, jersey knit and so on.
Then, bras come in different forms – padded, non-padded, wired and non-wired.
Then we have different types of cups depending on the kind of coverage we need – those with demi cups and those offering full coverage.
Some bras are so lovely you buy several of the same type and some are so plain you wonder why you bought them in the first place.
Some people don’t wear bras to bed. Some do. Some don’t wear bras around the house. I have an opinion about that, but that’s not something I want to go into now.
But can any urbane and upwardly mobile woman do without a bra when going out to work or for a meeting meeting?
That’s a question that is very subjective. If her boobs are not bigger than the size of an egg, she can go out without a bra. But by the time we’re talking about breasts that are as big as an average orange to watermelon sizes, then you will know that bras mean more than looking at them as lacy, beautiful or plain.
Bras are for support. Bras are to keep the breasts looking firm. Bras aid in giving women good postures. Bras are the next big thing to a woman after the breasts themselves.
We all need friends. Nobody can be without friends. Close friends, casual friends, online friends, occasional friends, older and younger friends. We all actually need friends!
Whether you are a man or a woman, the kind of friends you have should be as solid as the support the bra gives to big breasts.
We have seen breasts popping out of people’s bras at the most unlikely places. Then you will realise that some bras are just out to embarrass you. It’s either the bra is too small or the straps are not well fastened or they are too old for comfort.
We have friends like that. They have loose mouths, they don’t care about our feelings, they have been around for so long and gotten too familiar with us that they simply don’t care how their actions affect us.
We don’t need friends like that. These types of friends wouldn’t care about how they treat you in public. They can drag you in the floor for all to see and leave you naked. Like an old bra that doesn’t serve you any purpose anymore, toss them.
There are silk bras. These are really beautiful. They come in bright colours of flowers and even stones. Some are actually very dependable but most are just there to make you feel good without really giving the kind of support that you need. In fact, they don’t care about the weight of the breasts. All they care about is that you treat them with care – much care.
Some friends are like that. They are beautiful. They are the types you want to be seen with. They turn heads. People notice you fast when you walk into a room with them. But they are sometimes so demanding and they expect you to care for them without trying to give you anything in return. They take and take from you and feel it’s their right. Those friends are only using you. You don’t need them.
Some bras so plain you ask what made you buy them. But when you wear them, your breasts are in place for the hours you want them to behave. They won’t ever let you down.
Wouldn’t you want friends like that?
They may not even be educated in the real sense of the word. They may not be sophisticated. They may not speak phonetics but they are there for you all the time.
What do you need friends for? Someone you can be yourself with. Someone who won’t be envious of you or out you down. Someone who will give you a hug and tell you you’ll be fine when you have stuff troubling you.
There are friends you don’t need. Those who take you for granted, who put you down, who don’t respect your views, who are always angry, who think they’re always right, who are argumentative, who shame you or who are never there for you.
From the moment you start out with someone, you have an idea of who they are.
Some won’t come to you except they need you. They won’t call you until they need favours. Some will keep asking for this and that without thinking that you have needs. Some will laugh at you and not with you.
God answers prayers all the time but He sends humans to deliver them. He sends friends to you.
Who are your friends? Are they good enough to give you the strength you need in life?
I’ve binned some bras recently. Some were new acquisitions that were pricey but they failed me woefully when I needed them. And I’m keeping some old ones because they are serving me well.
Wouldn’t you take the decision now to keep those who are working for your happiness and toss those who give you headaches?
We all need full support in the journey of life. And like a good bra, the support had better be something you can count on. Trust me!
Alhaja Adeola Agoro is an Abuja based journalist and entrepreneur.