A 40-year-old liquor vendor, Mudirat Yusuf, has told a Customary Court in Lagos that she cheated on her husband, Hakeem Yusuf.
“Yes, it is true that my husband caught me in a hotel with another man, but we have settled it”, she told the Alagbado Customary Court, where her husband is asking for the dissolution of their 23-year-old union.
Yusuf, a fruit seller and commercial motorcycle operator, is alleging that his wife is adulterous.
He said: “The problem started 15 years after we got married. I hear some married women engage in extramarital sex, but I had never imagined my wife involving in such an undisciplined act. I was, however, embarrassed when my friends said they saw my wife and a man walk into a hotel.
“On that day, I had gone to join my friends at an open bar in the neighbourhood and while we were having fun, they suddenly chorused:
“So, you and your wife came to have some ‘nice time’ at the hotel today?” I smiled and told them that I left my wife at home with our children. But surprisingly, they said my wife had just entered the hotel opposite the bar.
“So, I waited for over 20minutes, after which my wife came out of the hotel accompanied by one of my colleagues. She was obviously shocked to see me. So, I went back home and threw out her belongings because I was very upset. Four years after, I took her back after several pleas by her relations. I was assured she had turned a new leaf.
“Sincerely, my wife assists me whenever there is a lull in my business, but I detest her adulterous lifestyle. My wife has never sought my help in most of the things she does. But she prefers to seek help from some other men.
“When one of my wife’s male customers died, it was only my wife who was informed. So, she stood as the deceased’s wife during the funeral. It is even more painful when my wife says the man was just her customer, yet she wakes up every night mentioning his name, with tears cascading her eyes.
“Recently, my wife told me she received an urgent call from her sister and I believed her. However, when I called to know her whereabouts, a man picked up the call, saying that the owner was busy. I thought I probably dialed a wrong number until the man picked up the call again, asking if I wanted my death certificate.
“So, I think I have tolerated her enough. I am fed up with her attitude and I don’t love her any more. Our second child should be in her custody, while I look after the other three children.”
While admitting that her husband caught her in a hotel with another man, Mrs Yusuf said they had resolved the issue, adding: “I am still pained by my customer’s death. So, once in a while, I lament his death because he came to my shop a few hours before he passed on that day. Since we got married, he has never introduced me to his relations. He doesn’t give me any allowance, but complains that I sell alcoholic drinks. He is temperamental. He once broke a bottle on my head when he saw some men in my shop, though he knows my customers are mostly men.
“It is true that a man, who is my spiritual father, picked my call and rained curses on him. It was later he informed me about what transpired between them. I do my responsibility as a wife and I still love him. So, I don’t want this marriage dissolved.”
The court’s President, Mr. Olubode Sekoni, advised the couple not to invade each other’s privacy and obey the law.
The case was adjourned till October 9, for hearing.